Enjoyment is
always bound up with gratitude; if this gratitude is deeply felt
it includes the wish to return goodness received and is thus the basis of generosity.
There is always a close relation between being able to accept and to give, and
both are part of the relation to the good object [prototypically, the nurturing mother]
and therefore counteract loneliness. Furthermore, the feeling of generosity underlies
creativeness, and this applies to the infant's most primitive constructive activities as
well as to the creativeness of the adult. (Melanie Klein,
Envy and gratitude and other works, 1946-1963, 1975, p. 310) |
The night of 02-03 September 1998, I dreamed I found myself among
some college students, moving into a dorm room, being confused about registration, etc. Somehow
I thought I was again entangled in the, to me, always anxiety-producing details
of "starting school". In fact, however, I was there on a special grant to spend the coming year
studying ethical dimensions of the role of architecture in our society. I
had no reason to be afraid, for I was not being subjected to the student regimen, but
rather had been granted an opportunity to pursue my own interests within the institutional
structure. I should have been happy, and only have felt badly for the "incoming students" around me.
Instead, I was almost in danger of losing my opportunity, since, before coming, my discouragement
about "returning to school" had led me
not to make preparations, and now, having arrived, I was unsure how to
connect with the persons who were welcoming me. --One message of this dream is: When
a person has been mistreated and become accustomed to such mistreatment (e.g., my having
been a student, tested, etc.), even if the person knows the mistreatment is wrong and
has struggled against it, if more appropriate conditions of life
become available, the person may need rehabilitative help to overcome the continuing
effects of what was done to them, in order to become freely able to adapt to and participate in
their new life situation.
[Go/Return
to Edmund Husserl's observation on the dependence of the life of the mind upon
safe daily life circumstances; See also: more reflections on this quote from Husserl:
Philosophy and Daily Life.] |
There are some new members...
of a small tennis club I used to frequent as a Rome-based correspondent more than 20 years ago....
They come and play at 1 o'clock, because, you know, they have to work in the morning.
Yes, I know, morning work, an unfortunate thing....
Globalization has no place for "dolce far niente" -
the pleasurable idleness woven into Italian life.
No wonder, then, that globalization is a contested process, here and in other less
sunlit places with their own particularities of style and work and habit.
(Roger Cohen, "In Face of Change, Italy Cleaves to 'la Dolce Vita'",
International Herald Tribune, NYT on the Web, 15Apr06)
[See also: Quote #63.] |